Alcohol & Consent
Want to have sex while you’re drunk and/or high?
The safest thing to do is to wait until you and the person you’re interested in are sober.
Consent is hard to get while intoxicated because you may not have an accurate perception of how the other person feels. Consent is hard to give while intoxicated because you may not be able to express yourself properly. In some cases, you maybe not even be able to speak properly, walk straight, or remember the experience.
If you see someone who is drunk and/or high, there are some things you can do to make sure you are respecting and caring for them.
Bring them water
Ask them how they are doing.
Ask them if they need anything.
If they are drunk or high and coming on to you, tell them “I think you are drunk / high right now and I want to be respectful. I like you, but let’s wait until we are sober.”
Help them get home safely.
Don’t take advantage of them.
How to tell if someone is too drunk/high to have sex or give consent:
Their words are slurred.
They can’t walk straight or on their own.
They are passed out.
They can’t keep their eyes open.
They have put themselves to bed.
They aren’t making sense.
They aren’t acting like their usual self.
They’ve said, “I’m drunk,” or “I’m high.”
Getting a person drunk or high to have sex with them is sexual assault. Waiting for someone to be drunk or high to try to have sex with them is sexual assault. Taking advantage of someone while drunk or high is sexual assault.
It is never someone’s fault if they are sexually assaulted while drunk and/or high and they always deserve support and care.
Giving someone drugs or alcohol without their knowledge is illegal. So, don’t put things in people’s drinks.
As a precaution, don’t leave your drink unattended or accept a drink that you did not see being poured.
Don’t be a bystander. If you see someone taking advantage of someone, call them out, try to help, or tell someone who can help.
If you see something being put in someone’s drink, alert the person whose drink it is and get them help. Alert bar staff and security.
If someone is assaulted or hurt because something was put in their drink, it is NEVER their fault and they deserve support and help.